In the heat of the moment, you may remind yourself that although adolescents may look like grown-ups on the outside, they are still children on the inside. They need you to be clear and steady, not to get tangled up in their drama. Remind yourself you’re the one in the room with the adult brain—and that you have the power to remain calm and to avoid escalating the argument. Also, in calm moments, be curious. Rather than tell your teen what to do, ask him or her questions.
