Put simply, self-awareness is not one truth. It’s a complex interweaving of our views and others’ views of us. Indeed, according to studies on this topic, these two different perspectives, rather than capturing redundant information, may simply capture different aspects of who we are. And as we learned earlier, if we have only internal or only external self-awareness, we’re missing a huge piece of the puzzle. So even though we should take others’ opinions seriously, they also shouldn’t define us or completely override our self-image; the key, as we’ll see, is learning how to evaluate
