We’ll revisit this idea in the next chapter when we talk about recognizing and stopping rumination, but for now, especially when you’re feeling bad about yourself—guilty, fearful, upset, unable to cope—take notice of whether you’re being self-critical. Why can’t I do the most basic things, like be on time?”) or self-accepting (“That was a mistake—but I’m only human and these things happen”). A helpful question to ask can sometimes be, “Would I say what I just said to myself to someone whom I like and respect?”
