It was plain to see that they had organized around his desire and her refusal. In the beginning, he hotly pursued her and she was in the responsive role. She welcomed his advances. Gradually her interest gave way to resistance, and his wanting morphed into neediness. That was such a turnoff that it made her double down on her withdrawal. The more he begged, the more put off she was. And the more closed she was, the more clingy he became. In a classic pursuer-distancer dynamic, each of them would reinforce in the other the very behavior they abhorred.
