Perhaps this explains why many couples therapists overwhelmingly subscribe to the symptom theory. This way, they can focus on the familiar territory of the relationship rather than submerge themselves in the quagmire of transgression. It’s easier to put the blame on a failed marriage than to grapple with the existential imponderables of our ambitions, our longings, and our ennui. The problem is that unlike the drunkard, whose search is futile, therapists can always find problems in a marriage. These just may not be the right keys to unlock the meaning of the affair.
