But there’s another way of looking at trust: as a force that enables us to cope with uncertainty and vulnerability. To quote Rachel Botsman, “Trust is a confident relationship to the unknown.”6 If we accept that the certainty we long for is something we may never truly have, we can reframe the notion of trust. Yes, trust is built and strengthened by actions over time, but by the same token, trust is also a leap of faith—“a risk masquerading as a promise,”7 as Adam Phillips writes. An affair throws a couple into a new reality, and those who are willing to venture forward together discover that
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