Now, all of a sudden, we are no longer relating to our romantic love partner as the source of our happiness (and therefore someone who can take it away), but rather sharing ourselves more fully and unconditionally. We are not demanding that another is the provider of our happiness and love, so we accept them as they are and give them the freedom to be themselves without conditions. This, in turn, changes the quality of the relationship, making it a more authentic exchange of love between two people rather than a conduit through which two people seek to get their needs met from each other in
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