Gentle Discipline: Using Emotional Connection--Not Punishment--to Raise Confident, Capable Kids

by Sarah Ockwell-Smith

when the motivation comes from within the child and they learn how to do better—that we see long-lasting change.

Effort is so much more important than achievement. Praising effort and focusing on what the child has learned helps them to develop a growth mind-set

The child is not able to change their looks or their innate intelligence, so praising them for qualities that are totally out of their control undermines them.

he is not giving me a hard time, he is having a hard time,