It may surprise some to hear that I do believe God effectually humbles some people. I just do not believe those people will be saved. If you wait on God to effectually humble you, it will be too late! This is one of the dangers of the Calvinistic worldview. If taken consistently it removes the responsibility that Scripture clearly places on man and puts it onto God. Look
I remember Sharilyn telling me that Brianne said that she was not one off the elect. This would be an example of Calvinism taken to its ultimate conclusion. Basically she learned that she has no responsibilty to respond to God's call to repent and believe on Christ because God hasn't made her do it by electing her. since she doesn't feel irresistibly compelled to repent and believe then in her mind God has not elected her.
This is a tragic result of unbiblical teaching. So sad.