He carries these conversations, this community, with him into the straight world. Standing in line at Starbucks, he can see who is around him. Eyeing the person across the room, he tells me, he might not know if the person is gay. If that person is on Grindr, then he knows. He can say hello. He can flirt with him. He can invite him to fuck in the bathroom if he wanted to, because he has a back channel. He has the Hole he can carry around with him in his pocket. The gay bar might not be sexy anymore, filled with straight women and turned into a tourist trap, but he downloaded a gay bar into his
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