Today, if I hear whites sharing negative feedback among themselves about people of color I ask, “What did they say when you talked to them about it?” Most often, just like me, they hadn’t talked with their colleague. I might continue with a few questions, including, “What specific behaviors are you concerned about? How did you make meaning of what they said or did? What could be other ways to interpret what they did? Have you ever seen any white colleagues do similar behaviors? If so, what was your reaction and did you talk directly with them? Do you hold white colleagues to the same level of
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