Each time I name one of these intentions or common dynamics of white people, I ask if people can relate to me, and many often do. This process of “relating in” sets the tone for new ways of engaging as white people that are counter to white cultural norms. Instead of competing to be seen as the most evolved white person or attacking each other to prove we are not racist, I offer a way to connect and relate to each other as we build a community of supportive white colleagues.
