Another problem with this patronizing approach of helping people of color is that I came from a deficit model and only focused on how racism devastated the lives of people of color. I was fixated on correcting these problems and fixing what I thought were the deficits of people of color. I never looked at how whiteness and internalized dominance were showing up in my actions and how I was part of the problem. I tried to present myself as the white savior, all the while expecting and demanding that people of color constantly recognize and thank me for all that I was doing for them. When I
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