In parenting, it’s not your actions but the lens through which you see your actions that we’re finding to be of most importance. If you were expected to be “perfect” growing up, for example, you take this expectation into your parenting. If you want to make sure your children never feel the pain you once felt, this may also place an unhealthy burden on you. Parenting is of course to some extent about what you do. But even more, it’s who you are as you do it.
