Relational security (the prevention of rejection) means having as few needs as possible, so Fives resist exposing their needs by protecting themselves with emotional distance. Because of their fear of being controlled, Eights refuse to open their hearts and reject the possibility of needing anyone else. Eights also resist facing their pain and would rather fight for those in poverty or those who suffer in pain than press into their own. This proximity to vulnerability and pain is one of the ways they are confronted by their inability to be vulnerable themselves, not allowing themselves to want
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