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Twos find themselves navigating a fear of being rejected in their relationships. This fear of rejection is, in a sense, an echo of the pain they felt from an experience of feeling rejected by their protective caregiver. As a coping technique, they assume overly nurturing roles in their relationships.
Frequently Twos will ask those with whom they’re in relationships, “Do you really love me?” Such a question inevitably comes as a surprise since Twos are often the most lovable of all Enneagram types.
Twos who lean toward their One wing follow their principles in the ways they serve others and often come across as more serious than Twos with a strong Three wing, who appeal to their generous nature to draw more attention to themselves or those they serve.
People misunderstand Sevens by suggesting they typically lack the ability to follow through with all the amazing things they give themselves to. This misunderstanding is rooted in the value that Sevens place on freedom. To bring closure to anything forces limitations on the freedom they seek to establish in their own lives and create for others. Always positive, always hopeful, voraciously curious, Sevens remind us all that we are alive.
Sevens with a Six wing draw people in, using their charisma to establish reassurance in relationship. By offering spontaneity, they take others on “mini-vacations” from their own life dramas or problems, giving their friends a much-needed break by allowing the positive outlook of the Seven to help reframe any situation.
The Harmony Triads are made up of three equilateral triangles connecting types Two, Five, and Eight (the Relationists); Three, Six, and Nine (the Pragmatists); and One, Four, and Seven (the Idealists).1 Dr. Daniels developed these categorizations as ways the Harmony Triads relate to the world, in contrast to the Intelligence Centers as ways of perceiving the world.
