We like to be easygoing about sex, but what people mean by “casual sex” is perhaps too dismissive. Casual sex sounds like we are supposed to be distant: don’t get too close, don’t expect too much, avoid any expression of intimacy or vulnerability. We are now hearing people refer to certain of their lovers as “friends with benefits,” an interesting concept. Why shouldn’t we share the manifold benefits of sex with our friends, making sex a natural part of the love and honor and loyalty and openheartedness that we already share? We have learned the most, and had the most fun, and made the most
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