Many women have been taught that it is unfeminine to say no directly. Ask yourself: When was the last time you said no to sex? How did you do it? Was it with a polite and friendly but unmistakable “No, thanks”? Or was it with “Not tonight; I’ve got a headache” or “Maybe another time” or “I’ll think about it”? We strongly suggest you work out a “No, thanks” that feels comfortable to you; expecting the interested party to read your mind and somehow know that your “maybe…” means “no” is neither ethical nor slutty.
