Start by giving yourself permission to learn. Allow yourself to not know what you don’t know, to be ignorant: Buddhists call this “beginner’s mind.” You must allow yourself to make mistakes; you have no choice. So reassure yourself: there is no graceful way to unlearn jealousy. It’s like learning to skate—you have to fall down and make a fool of yourself a few times before you become as graceful as a swan.
