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February 27 - March 2, 2023
A friend of ours, when she trips over some surprisingly intense emotional response, says, philosophically, “Oh well—AFOG,” which stands, she says, for “Another Fucking Opportunity for Growth.” Learning from one’s mistakes isn’t fun, but it’s way better than not learning at all.
One year, for Tina’s birthday, Trace bought her what we think is the ultimate slut birthday present: three season tickets to an excellent performance series…one for Tina, one for Trace, and one for whichever of Tina’s lovers she chose to invite to each event. (Dossie got to see Ravi Shankar!)
Love is a wonderful thing, and we think it would be even more wonderful if we all acted like responsible adults and entered into thoughtful arrangements about the physical and financial foundations of our lives.
To live single is unusual in most cultures. Most people look on their times of singlehood as temporary, often accidental, and to be ended as quickly as possible.
Cannot relate lmao
What would it be like to be intentionally single, to choose for some period of time to live by yourself?
Your relationship with yourself is a lifelong commitment.
Being single over being partnered is not an either/or choice. But our culture tends to discount singlehood as a lifestyle, and thus very few people choose to remain single, which means there are limited resources and little social status available to the single person. Perhaps if being single were an acceptable, even valued, lifestyle, partnerships might develop more out of choice and less out of a sense of necessity or a desperate grab for salvation. Partnered
“Being single offers the opportunity to spend time being purely who you are.”
The only way you know how to be in a relationship is to try to be the perfect wife or husband or lover or provider, and you’re exhausted from trying to be someone you are not.
CLOCKED ME!!!!!
Someone asked me if I feared being alone in my old age. I am now in my seventies, and you bet I’m afraid of that. I do have a role model—my mother outlived my father by almost thirty years.
And when I had the courage to be loving, the result was that I got a lot of love back.
Do I sometimes feel lonely? Sure. Do I love my life? Immensely. Sometimes I think I am the luckiest person in the world.
When you find yourself wanting to blame, it may help to remember a truism of relationship counseling: any problem belongs to the relationship itself, not either of the people in it.
After all, my erstwhile dear, My no longer cherished, Need we say it wasn’t love Just because it perished?
The “what”—what sex actually is—is a journey into an extraordinary state of consciousness, where we tune out everything extraneous to our emotions and our senses in this very moment, travel into a realm of delicious sensation, and soak in the deep connection.
The best part of learning about sex is that you’ll love the homework.
“Write this on your mirror: sexually successful people masturbate.”
Your perfect lover is waiting for you anytime you want…right there in your own skin.
You may want to check out cuddle parties (sometimes called snuggle parties) for some new ideas about getting together and perhaps a safer introduction to connecting in groups: at such parties, everyone wears pajamas and snuggles to explore intense closeness, without taking it on into actual sex.
Ummm???? I need to go to one of these
And may we all look forward to a lifetime of dreams come true.
