At times when the grief was overwhelming, I did three things: I made a point of getting regular bodywork, often spending the better part of a session crying on the massage table; I regularly returned to my meditation cushion and the practices that stabilized my attention, regulated my emotional states, and cultivated pro-social qualities like loving kindness; and I would visit my nurse friends who worked in the unit at the general hospital caring for babies who have been born to addicted mothers. I’d sit in a rocking chair, hold these babies, and rock them to sleep. There was something about
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