In the old days, people used to wear black armbands to let each other know that they were mourning because grief is like being in an altered state. And people treated mourners differently. They took care of them. In the first days and weeks after someone you love dies, don’t expect yourself to be able to function fully. Ask for help. Let somebody else make the meals and do the laundry. Cancel your appointments. Take time. Walk if you can. Your body will be rebelling in all sorts of odd ways. Incredible fatigue. Your legs will feel like lead. Restlessness will rule. You may not want to sleep or
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