How to begin? Oh heavenly mercies. There isn’t a template for this work, but I can tell you my early steps to forgiveness. God was super clear: Pray for this person every day, which was the meanest thing He ever said to me. I was furious. I think I even said something petulant to God like, “The hell I will!” and He was all, “Do it, Potty Mouth.” So my prayers started rather, well, shallow: Please don’t let this person get hit by a car today. Amen. That was as far as I could go. The anger around my heart was still stretched tight. I was obedient to the letter of the law only. But as that
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