Emotional Intelligence: A Modern Guide to Mastering Your Emotions,Gain Confidence, Win Friends, & Influence People! (REVISED) (Emotional Intelligence 2.0 Book 2)

by Lewis Conrad

To Cut a Long Story Short! IQ is important for success, but EQ is the pre-requisite for leadership!

The very first technique that will help you improve emotional intelligence is to gain control over your emotions with the help of emotion cycle. This emotion cycle consists of four stages: Identifying or recognizing your emotions Making use of those emotions Developing an understanding your emotions Managing your emotions

To summarize this chapter! To be emotionally intelligent, you must learn to identify, use,

understand and manage your emotions!

So if you are having a hard time developing the positive thinking then you must follow these easy-to-do tips: Identify your negative thoughts - whenever you are thinking in a negative way, stop and register that moment in your mind. Convert your negative thoughts into positive ones- Josh is a website developer. He has been developing websites for almost a year. He always works on small orders. Recently he got the most complicated and biggest order of his life.

He is extremely scared, uncertain and keeps on thinking that his reputation will be destroyed if he fails in fulfilling the requirements of his client. But what if he succeeds? If he succeeds in creating this website, then he will become a permanent part of the biggest technological organization of America. So instead of fearing anything, it's best to convert it into something positive such as ambition or motivation. Don't think "How" just think that "I will" and you will definitely succeed. Don’t turn your current environment into your future residence-Whether you take a look at the most successful entrepreneurs, top-ranking Hollywood actors or highest-paid Bollywood actors; all of them passed through extremely hard time during their childhood and struggle days. One thing common between all of them is that not a single one of them considered their current environment to their future. Take Michael Jackson; he suffered the life of poverty when he was a little child, as soon as he started singing, his life changed, and he became an overnight success.

To summarize this chapter! Follow these four tips to develop control over your thoughts: Think positively Relax Exercise Adopt Humor

Common understanding is that whenever you are mad at yourself, you punish yourself more often and as a result

of this behavior, you end up falling into depression. If you want to get rid of this damaging emotion then there are two ways through which you can do this: The first point is to question yourself- Whenever you feel that you are passing through this

Mad-At-Yourself Anger then ask yourself that why do you feel that you are responsible for this issue? If anybody has blamed you for the concerned issue then lay out all the points for that person's blame. Also, point out the reasons that are against the blame of that person. You will find a great peace, once you reach the conclusion. Take a paper and pen, write down all of your qualities on that piece of paper in the form of a list and then paste it to the wall of your bedro...

Instead of suppressing your anger, you can deal with your emotional issues by following three different steps: Ask yourself the questions regarding all those issues that made you angry, yet they seemed OK to you. If your husband is only doing a part-time job, but you are working full-time, yet you are also handling the household chores then do ask yourself whether this much work stress is ok for you or not? If a colleague stole your idea and presented it in front of your boss and got promoted instead of you then think whether this action is ok for you or not? You must put others in your place and register the reaction. For instance, if you got insulted by any colleague then you must put any other colleague in your place and see whether he should have reacted the same way that you reacted or not.

You don’t have to turn into the kind of hell every time you get insulted or emotionally threatened by somebody. Instead, you can react in a calm and peaceful way and tell that person that you felt upset by his words or action. Brendetta asked her neighbor to take care of her cat while she was away for the day. When she came back later that night, she found out that her cat remained unfed the entire day because her neighbor forgot.

To avoid becoming sarcastic all the time, its best for you to try these three simple steps: Be straight while expressing your feelings over any issue. Let the other person know that you felt bad because he ignored you or forgot your birthday instead of passing snide remarks. Be strong when you are conveying your point. There is no need to fear the reaction of the other person if he is the one who did wrong. If you got humiliated by any comment of your friend, then do let him know but in a polite manner. Never mock the other person and never be insulting. Try to convey your concerns to the other person before things start getting out of hand. If you have started feeling angry over something, then it's best to convey your point before anger numbs your mind.

Coping with negative emotions might seem like a difficult thing, but this thing can easily be transferred into the easiest thing on earth by following a few simple steps: To get rid of the negative emotions, you must find the root of the emotions that you have been feeling. Next, you need to keep track of your bodily reactions as a result of that emotion. Feel the emotion for a while- heck you are not a robot! You might feel negative emotions even if you try to ignore them. So the best way to face them is to feel them and recall the last time you felt the similar emotions. When you feel any negative emotion, then try

not thinking about it as a bad influence for your future. Try to ponder over the options through which you can bring control over your negative emotions such as reading a nice book, smoking, going to a restaurant, etc. Realize that if these negative emotions are occurring due to any tough time, then this time will also pass away. Start practicing mindfulness techniques; these are also very effective when it comes to controlling your emotions. Adopt a productive hobby to bring positivity to your life. Take a paper and pen and register all the negative emotions that you feel at different times. Also, note down the emotion triggers that trigger those negative emotions. Change the way you react to your negative thoughts. Try to give yourself some credit. To summarize this chapter!

In order to develop self-awareness, you must: Set a list of certain questions about your likes and dislikes starting from “WHY” and answer them. For instance, why do you like to watch the Johnny Depp movies? Keep track of your attitude. Ask your surrounding people to provide feedback on your behavior. Be aware of your behavior and try to overcome your personal weaknesses. Don’t be extremely reactive. To develop empathy, you must: Listen to others. Connect with others in an emotional way. In short, you must open up about your personal experiences to the other person so he can trust you. Be physically affectionate. Keep your eyes out for the events happening around you. Don’t be judgmental. You don’t know what

other person has been through so don’t be judgmental about him depending just on his looks. Be helpful. To Recap this chapter! To increase emotional intelligence, you must start by working on your personal strengths such as integrity, responsibility, motivation, empathy, and self-awareness.