say in lectures in 1996 that fifty percent or more of American marriages go bust because most of us no longer have extended families. When you marry somebody now, all you get is one person. I say that when couples fight, it isn’t about money or sex or power. What they’re really saying is, “You’re not enough people!” Sigmund Freud said he didn’t know what women wanted. I know what women want. They want a whole lot of people to talk to.