The next time your kid says something negative and inflammatory, follow these steps: 1. Grit your teeth and resist the urge to immediately contradict him! 2. Think about the emotion he is feeling 3. Name the emotion and put it in a sentence With any luck you will see the intensity of the bad feelings diminish dramatically. Good feelings can’t come in until the bad feelings are let out. If you try to stuff those bad feelings back in, they will marinate and become more potent. For example: When a child says, “I hate Jimmy. I’m never playing with him again.” Instead of, “Of course you will. Jimmy
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