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Often, our most intense discomfort is what precedes and necessitates thinking in a way we have never conceived of before.
Our mind is not comfortable with a change
only because we have accepted an inner narrative of “normal” and “ideal” without ever realizing.
there is no normal or common sense
you are psychologically incapable1 of being able to predict what will make you happy.
Questioning pursue your passion slogan
Accomplishing goals is not success.
True there are always more goals to reach
needlessly create problems and crises in your life because you’re afraid of actually living it.
Working on fixing crises is easier and more familiar
If you want to change your beliefs, go out and have experiences that make them real to you.
Avoiding experience that makes your beliefs evident only makes believe stayy
The “problem” becomes a catalyst
A problem is what gets you out of comfort zone
past defines you, and worse, you think that it is an unchangeable reality, when really, your perception of it changes as you do.
Past facts might not be easy to change. Though our perception of them is transformabble
The things you love about others are the things you love about yourself. The things you hate about others are the things you cannot see in yourself.
Your habits create your mood,
You are your habits
anything can persuade you into thinking you want something that you don’t actually.
Like mustang untamed mind is prone to blow with the windd
let your conscious choices about what your day will be about guide you, letting all the other, temporary crap fall to the wayside.
Being Consciously aware of yoor day plan
Unfortunately as we’re taught that passion should drive our every thought move and decision, we’re basically impaled with the fear that we’re unhappy because we’re not doing “enough.”
Passion is pipe dream sold to us by new age snake oil salesmen
When you regulate your daily actions, you deactivate your “fight or flight”
habit creates container in which our mind can relax
feel content because routine consistently reaffirms a decision you already made.
Routine confirms your commitment to decisioin that you made
routine becomes the pathway to “flow2.”
As mind relaxes its easier for it to get into flow
we teach ourselves that “fear” is an indicator that we’re doing the wrong thing, rather
Apllying curiossity to fear helps to transform itt
They recognize their emotions as responses, not accurate gauges, of what’s going on.
Emotions might feel vefry strong and pull us intensly towards a certain direction and they more more like wind then a current.
Where one believes that as the universe has done wrong, the universe will ultimately have to correct it.
relying on the universe is fear of making yiur own decisions
feeling “saved” from whatever we disliked about our past experiences.
The things we dont like are things we have experienced in the past as causing us discomfort. The more we avoid such experiences the more we get to loose on opportunity to see the otheer side of every experience - the good sids
They are not stuck in the illusion that “happiness” is a sustained state of joy.
To sustain the state of joy its needed too experience coontrast
swayed by thoughts, beliefs, and mindsets that were never theirs in the first place.
Understanding the origin of yojr thiughts and believes helps to nott tbe swayed by other people perception
They know that a feeling will not kill them.
Even the worst of feelings are temporary thought it might not seem like that in a moment
They are kind to all, but truly open to few.
They don’t confuse a bad feeling for a bad life.
relationship to everyone else is an extension of your relationship to yourself.
Working on relationship with yourself will change your relationship with others
Feeling as though you are reliving your childhood struggles.
it.
Struggle was always present there its a matter of what happens to your awareness of it
suffering is just the refusal to accept what is.
Manifested so strong in india for me
Numbness is not nothing, neutral is nothing. Numbness is everything at once.
Interesting point of view. Feeling everything at the same time
Trying to change how you feel is like finding a road sign that points in the opposite direction of where you had intended to go and getting out to try to turn the sign, rather than your course of action.
Brilliant metaphor
It’s about listening.
Should i say vipassana?
You either let yourself feel everything or numb yourself into feeling nothing. You cannot select emotions.
Emotional spectrum coming up again. I didnt let myself feel the loss and pretended for the second time to just keep going... This might be causing difficulties in expression of other emotions
Have you ever identified the difference between what you call yours and what you call yourself?
Deep question of consciousness
The ways we don’t live up to the ideas in our minds become our greatest grievances.
Just what happened with me in TW. Similar experience with codementor firdt client
At the end of the day, all we really want are a few close people who know us (and love us) no matter what.
So true.
fact that you’ve simply had them in the first place is that you or your former partner chose not to settle. You opened yourself to the possibility of something else being out there.
A bit of positive thinking here. I do prefer to push to situation where i make the decision to not settle. SOmething About the fear of abandonment lures nearby
Nobody wants to believe happiness is a choice, because that puts responsibility in their hands.
If happiness is a state that can not be chosen we can always blame circumstances for our unhappiness
as soon as our circumstances extend beyond the amount of happiness we’re accustomed to and comfortable feeling, we unconsciously begin to self-sabotage.
body pleasure tolerance is deeply connected to that
We can adapt to any suffering and misery, when we get accustomed to it. We choose to stay in it even when we can Make a choice to be happy
I find this to be one of the most challenging shifts. To see that even so ones personality exists strongly in ones head it’s not reality. Reality is that we are more agile than we think, we are. And our personality is learned not part of us.
Russian attitude which comes from extreme embodiment of western values. Huh... interesting metaphors
I totally had this reaction myself to many people in Ubud. My partner had sad similar things too and I can even recall my parents saying the same
if you live and act as though you can slide by because you’re ever so slightly better than everyone else, you’ll never actually try.
Try wholeheartedly or do not
you work on yourself enough, you’ll understand what the struggle is for.
And will not resist it anymore
Most people assume that when their lives change, their thoughts will change.
Having enough money won't make less stingi
If you wait on the feeling of “readiness,” you’ll be waiting forever, and worse, you’ll miss the best of what’s in front of you.
To add to this it also depends on situation you are in. How much are you prepared to hurt people close to you?
Meeting your own needs is the first step, not the ultimate goal.
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