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Happiness is not how many things you do, but how well you do them. More is not better. Happiness is not experiencing something else; it’s continually experiencing what you already have in new and different ways.
A lack of routine is just a breeding ground for perpetual procrastination.
They don’t just become close friends with anyone.
They don’t confuse a bad feeling for a bad life.
The mind tells you to go on and forces your heart to follow suit, I guess.
It’s interesting how we realize the storm returns to calm, but we see the stars differently now, and we don’t know, and we can’t choose, whose wreckage can do that for us.
We all start as strangers, but we forget that we rarely choose who ends up a stranger, too.
They do not argue with people who only want to win, not learn. You can identify that this is the case when people start “pulling” for arguments or resorting to shoddy logic only to seem as though they have an upper hand. Socially intelligent people know that not everybody wants to communicate, learn, grow or connect—and so they do not try to force them.
The main thing socially intelligent people understand is that your relationship to everyone else is an extension of your relationship to yourself.
Feeling “lost” or directionless.
Experiencing unpredictable and scattered sleeping patterns.
you’re recalibrating.
Downsizing your friend group; feeling more and more uncomfortable around negative people. The thing about negative people is that they rarely realize they are negative, and because you feel uncomfortable saying anything (and you’re even more uncomfortable keeping that in your life), you’re ghosting a bit on old friends.
Feeling like the dreams you had for your life are collapsing.
If what you’re experiencing is insecurity or uncertainty, it’s usually going to lead to something better.
Recognizing how far you still have to go.
love yourself by respecting yourself first.
Realizing you are the only person responsible
for your life and your happiness.
if you mess up, it’s all on you. At the same time, realizing it is the only way to be truly free.
a world and lifetime of listening, leaning, allowing, following, perceiving, feeling, and experiencing…constantly eludes you.
Sadness will not kill you. Depression won’t, either. But fighting it will. Ignoring it will.
You question yourself. You doubt your life. You feel miserable some days. This means you’re still open to growth.
You’re not the same person you were a year ago. You’re learning, and evolving, and can identify the ways in which you’ve changed for better and worse.
Life did not get easier; you got smarter.
Everybody has a happiness tolerance—an upper limit—as Gay Hendricks coins it4. It is the capacity for which we allow ourselves to feel good.
impediments
innately
we can then make the choice to seek comfort from things that are ultimately aligned with what we want to achieve.
subconsciously
The path to a greater life is not “suffering until you achieve something,” but letting bits and pieces of joy and gratitude and meaning and purpose gradually build, bit by bit.
enamored
deflection.
apathy
It’s not about what pain you suffer; it’s about what you suffer for.
steadfast
bopping
impoverished.
The commonality is a sense of purpose, belonging, and love: things you can choose to feel and cultivate,
regardless of physical/material circumstance.
People believe that suffering makes them worthy.
buoy
“happy people” may lose everything they have, but people who never choose to fully step into their lives never have anything at all.
the happiness of pleasure, the happiness of grace, and the happiness of excellence5.
insatiable,
fleeting
thrive.
instantaneous.
stinting
You begin to imagine what you could accomplish. You fall in lo...
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