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Living in the moment isn’t a lofty ideal reserved for the Zen and enlightened; it’s the only way to live a life that isn’t infiltrated with illusions. It’s the only thing your brain can actually comprehend.)
The only thing you’re rushing toward is death. Accomplishing goals is not success. How much you expand in the process is.
Fear = interest.
The “problem” becomes a catalyst for you to actualize the life you always wanted. It pushes you from your comfort zone,
So many people get caught up in allowing the past to define them or haunt them simply because they have not evolved to the place of seeing how the past did not prevent them from achieving the life they want, it facilitated it.
The things you love about others are the things you love about yourself. The things you hate about others are the things you cannot see in yourself.
open themselves up to any experience that their life evolves toward, knowing there are equal parts good and bad in anything.
Fear means you’re trying to move toward something you love, but your old beliefs, or unhealed experiences, are getting in the way. (Or, rather, are being called up to be healed.)
They’ve developed enough stamina and awareness to know that all things, even the worst, are transitory.
The dynamics afterward always tell you more than what the relationship did—grief is a faster teacher than joy—but
I want to believe that you either love someone, in some way, forever, or you never really loved them at all.
We all start as strangers, but we forget that we rarely choose who ends up a stranger, too.
To speak definitively about any one person or idea is to be blind to the multitude of perspectives that exist
Some of the most difficult people to be in relationships with are those who are so threatened by even the slightest suggestion that their behavior is hurtful that they actually end up getting angry at the person suggesting it, reinforcing the problem altogether. Socially intelligent people listen to criticism before they respond to it—an immediate emotional response without thoughtful consideration is just defensiveness.
that your relationship to everyone else is an extension of your relationship to yourself.
So healing is really just letting yourself feel.
Sadness will not kill you. Depression won’t, either. But fighting it will. Ignoring it will. Trying to escape it rather than confront it will. Denying it will. Suffocating it will. Allowing it no place to go other than your deep subconscious to embed and control you will.
