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Many of the world’s ‘best’ people understood that to change their lives, they had to change their minds.
Often, our most intense discomfort is what precedes and necessitates thinking in a way we have never conceived of before.
Most things that bring genuine happiness are not just temporary, immediate gratifications, and those things also come with resistance and require sacrifice.
kind to all, but truly open to few.
Discomfort is what happens when we are on the precipice of change.
Real emotional maturity is how thoroughly you let yourself feel anything. Everything. Whatever comes.
fixing the parts does not heal the whole.
People believe that apathy is safety.
You cannot beat fear to the finish line.
“happy people” may lose everything they have, but people who never choose to fully step into their lives never have anything at all.
you do not need to be exceptionally beautiful or talented or successful to experience the things that make life profound: love, knowledge, connection, community, and so on.
perhaps the current problem in your life is not the problem, but that your perception is skewed, or you aren’t thinking of solutions as much as you are focusing on your discomfort.
your current situation—though perhaps unplanned or unwanted—could be the path to the place you’ve actually always wanted to be, if only you’d begin to think of it that way.
Everything is hard; it’s just a matter of what you think is worth the effort.
Fulfillment is a product of knowing what “enough” is—otherwise you will be constantly seeking more.
People very often focus on the warning signs that something is wrong, but not the subtle signals that something is right.
the future will be different, and you will figure out how to make it so.
You cannot think your way out of pain. You cannot predict it, or avoid it, or pretend you don’t feel it. Doing so is living a fraction of the life you were meant to, and it will make you a fraction of the person you’re supposed to be.
If you work on yourself enough, you’ll understand what the struggle is for.
Defensiveness never precedes growth, it stunts it.
“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.”
What you first reach to insult someone with—especially when it’s physical—says infinitely more of you than them.
It is not your job to judge who is deserving of your love and kindness. It is not your job to fix anybody. It is only your job to love them in whatever way is appropriate.
It is not the quantity of what we accomplish, but the quality of it.
You’ll most want to try to make changes to your life when you’re consumed by emotion, but that’s the worst time to do so. Do not make decisions when you’re upset.
anxiety stems from shame.
Trust that things get better as time goes on. Not because time heals, but because you grow.
When people believe that they are victims, they forfeit their power.
people’s opinions of you are largely projections of how they see themselves
