As much as we crave intimacy, being truly together — and not filling the space with content or distraction — can feel awkward and even scary. Being present with another human being can make us feel vulnerable, anxious, and overly exposed. It’s not how we’re used to relating. Connection and intimacy, first and foremost, require our full presence. To be truly intimate with another person, we have to be able to be intimate with ourselves, to stay with our own experience. For many people, being with themselves is not something they have been taught or know how to experience, and given the fear
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