This Is How It Always Is

by Laurie Frankel

Shakespeare could not touch. The Sunday

‘You can’t tell people what to be, I’m afraid,’ said Rosie. ‘You can only love and support who they already are.

‘Easy is nice, but it’s not as good as getting to be who you are or stand up for what you believe in,’ said Penn. ‘Easy is nice, but I wonder how often it leads to fulfilling work or partnership or being.’

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‘Having children, helping people, making art, inventing anything, leading the way, tackling the world’s problems, overcoming your own. I don’t know. Not much of what I value in our lives is easy. But there’s not much of it I’d trade for easy either, I don’t think.’

You have to make these huge decisions on behalf of your kid, this tiny human whose fate and future is entirely in your hands, who trusts you to know what’s good and right and then to be able to make that happen. You never have enough information. You don’t get to see the future. And if you screw up, if with your incomplete, contradictory information you make the wrong call, well, nothing less than your child’s entire future and happiness is at stake. It’s impossible. It’s heartbreaking. It’s maddening. But there’s no alternative.’