And I looked in my friend’s eyes, and I realized how selfish I’d been. Because my child had been able to come to me, and say, “Mom, I think I’m gay,” and a week later, “No, really I’m transgender.” We were going through this amazing process of transition. And I got to be a part of it. We were going through that with a lot of love and care. I looked in my friend’s eyes, who had lost her daughter, and I realized that I really hadn’t lost my daughter. I’d lost a gender. A title. It was that easy.
