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“Hey, I know this is really random, but I saw you walking by and I thought you were cute. So, I had to say ‘Hi’. I’m [Your name].”
of a slow, controlled introduction, like: “Hey…I know this is random… but I just saw you walking
by… and you caught my eye…and I wanted to say hi… I’m Dave…” It turns into: “HeyIKnowThisIsRandomButIsawyouwalkingbyandomgIhadtosayhiImdaveHowareyoudoingwhatareyouuptoomgyourehotahhh.”
When you’re talking to women, focus on holding it for the majority of the time. Look at her right eye, so your eyes don’t shift back and forth.
We’ll get to both of these scenarios in a second – but let’s talk about some more conversational tools you can use to extend the conversation. Aside from making statements, you can also: -Ask open-ended questions (like, “What brings you to X city?”), then listen and relate back with your own experiences -Compliment her in genuine and unique ways (like, “You have a very unique style. I might need to get some fashion tips from you”) -Playfully tease her (i.e. Oh you’re
Action Tip: Approach a girl today or tomorrow. Use one of the conversation starters from the last section, and follow it up by introducing yourself and asking, “What are you up to?”
The best way to get through these tests (and also to infuse flirting into the conversation) is to agree and exaggerate.
Her: “I’m sure you say that to every girl…” You: “Damn it, you’re right. Usually they don’t catch on though. I must be off my game today.”
Her: “You know I’m not sleeping with you tonight, right?” You: “Obviously. Sex is always better on the second date anyway.”
Here, you occasionally insinuate that she’s hitting on you or trying to seduce you. You do this by twisting her words and making it seem like she’s trying to turn you on.
You: “I live around the corner. We can go to my place for a drink, but only if you promise not to try anything.” -
“I see what you’re trying to do. But I’m not that easy!”
saw you checking me out over there. I’m not a piece of meat you know.”
at her eyes, then down to her mouth, then back up to her eyes – in a triangle formation. This is a great way to show interest in her.
Talk in her ear, and bounce out – This is key, especially in loud venues. Lean in and speak into her ear while lightly touching her elbow. Then, when you’re done talking,
conversation. Here’s how you can mix these in with short-answer questions: You: “What do you do?” (short-answer question) Her: “I’m a lawyer.” You: “Cool cool. How did you get into that?” (open-ended question) Her: “Well, my dad was a lawyer and ever since I was a kid, I…[blah blah blah]” You: “Oh wow, that’s awesome. What do you like about it?” (open-ended question) Her: “Well, I really like helping people and…”
Here are some powerful open-ended questions to ask: -What do you like about your job? -What was it like growing up there (where they grew up)? -If you could wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be? -What’s your dream job?
actively listen to her, and relate back to her responses. Provide some sort of feedback, even if it’s as simple as repeating back what she said.
(like, “What are you passionate about?”). It’s also important
Here are some emotional topics for you to dive into: -Her dreams -Her experiences -What she loves to do -What she is passionate about -What her motivations are
Remember: The more she talks about herself, the more connected she’ll feel to you.
What’s something you’ve always wanted to do?” -“What’s something you want to achieve this year?”
What do you absolutely love to do?”
What kind of activities set you on fire and get you excited?” -“What kinds of things make you laugh the hardest?”
Here is a question that can get you to this topic: “What are you most passionate about?” Once you get her
-“What made you want to get into that?” (If she’s discussing her career or college major)
and stats. They connect with emotions. And the way to communicate emotionally is to tell better stories and communicate good qualities. But…
They talk AT the woman the whole time, instead of WITH her.
There are a few elements to this: 1) Understand the purpose of talking about yourself 2) Highlight sexy qualities about yourself 3) Bait her 4) Follow the proper etiquette
behaviors are those intended to help other people. When you’re altruistic, you’re
time where you helped somebody less fortunate - A time where you did some volunteer work - A time where you helped a friend accomplish something
-Adventurousness. Women love spontaneous men. They want the kind of guy who’s going to make them feel alive, challenge them, and excite them. Not the kind of guy they can easily predict.
love to lay down the moves on the salsa dance floor, but I also analyze businesses.” This is short on details, and
“I LOVE snorkeling – have you ever tried it?”
Average is boring. Women like men who succeed in the face of adversity, overcome obstacles, and have purpose.
-What she likes (or dislikes) about her job -A place she’s traveled to – and how she felt about it -What kind of music she’s into -What her aspirations are -Something she’s excited about
Remember: women care more about the way you make them feel than your “stats” and accomplishments. That is the secret to connecting. When they feel that you understand this, they’ll relate to you more and mentally put you in the group of guys who “get it”.
