“Belonging is being accepted for who you are, and fitting in is changing who you are to be accepted.” I am dumbfounded. My teenage boy, growing into manhood, nails it. Brené Brown describes it this way: “Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be in order to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.”