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The INFP may also consider keeping a chart of their emotions–recording, at various points throughout the day, how they are feeling and what they are doing at the time, over the course of several weeks.
*Mood tracker.
This type has a tendency to set their ideals so high that they become lost on how to even get started accomplishing their sky-high ambitions.
This type has a tendency to neglect their physical health when they are feeling emotionally out of whack, which takes a corresponding toll on their mental health.
INFPs tend to naturally form warm, long-lasting friendships with other intuitive, feeling types. These personalities (ENFPs, INFJs, ENFJs and other INFPs) share the INFP’s idealistic nature and are able to intuitively understand the INFP in a way that most other types simply cannot. The INFP often feels as though they’ve met their platonic soul mates in other NF types whom they can instantly relax and be their true selves around. These relationships come as a great relief to the complex INFP who regularly feels misunderstood or misjudged by the people around them.
INFPs tend to appreciate the stability and nurturance their SJ friends provide them with. In turn, SJ types appreciate the thoughtfulness and compassion INFPs bring to their lives. These relationships may be slow to form but are based on a strong foundation of care and mutual respect.
To the INFP, a long, analytical conversation is a borderline erotic experience. They need a partner who shares their inherent love of learning–and who can keep up with their keenly analytical mind.
The INFP makes for a sensual and passionate partner – and they need someone who can match that passion unapologetically.
🙌🏻👏🏻
Perhaps the single greatest hurdle the INFP must overcome when it comes to falling and staying in love is their tendency to fall in love with a person’s potential, rather than their reality.
Holy. Cow. 😳
In some cases, however, the INFP may take this tendency too far and convince themselves that all their expectations for their partner have been unrealistic. Unable to find the middle ground between their ideal relationship and their actual relationship, the INFP may find themselves blaming every one of the relationship’s problems on their own high expectations. This, in turn, creates a whole new breed of problems in the relationship as the INFP finds themselves quietly taking the blame for everything that goes wrong.
Ope.
When a problem develops in the relationship, the INFP’s first instinct is almost always to withdraw and reflect. Healthy as this is in some cases, it can also lead to the INFP rationalizing problems rather than confronting them.
The INFP must first accept that their inclination to put themselves in their partner’s shoes isn’t a tendency that’s purely born from the goodness of their hearts it’s also a cleverly-disguised method of dodging uncomfortable confrontations.
The INFP is particularly adept at seeing things from others point of view–and though this makes them conflict-avoidant by nature, it is also, ironically, a skill that makes them excellent at handling conflict evenly and fairly. When this type shows their partner that they understand where he or she is coming from, but are nonetheless uncomfortable with the corresponding behavior and want to work to find a solution to it, it opens the floor up for genuine and non-accusatory conflict-resolution to take place.
At their best, INFPs are fiercely individualistic in nature. They maintain a high degree of self-awareness, take a keen interest in their own creative projects and they are skilled at balancing the relationship they have with themselves with the relationships they hold with others. But at their worst, INFPs can be guilty of searching for a sense of identity inside other people–fusing themselves with a lover or partner in order to fill their inner emptiness.
Never is the INFP so optimistic as they are about their ability to keep love alive. This type believes that almost any relationship can be healed, if the right amount of care and effort is poured into it.
By welcoming in new projects, new people and new opportunities into his or her life, the INFP gains perspective on the relationship and is able to see that it isn’t the only source of happiness and love that’s available to them.
