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Si is the reason why you function best within a structured routine, even though you inherently crave variety.
Underdeveloped Te is the reason why you secretly fear that others will perceive you as incompetent, and you take extreme measures to ensure you are coming across as well read and intelligent in conversation.
Because they come to understand things in such an intuitive way, it is often difficult to teach the INFP in a traditional fashion–they must first understand how a concept relates to their own worldview and then expand upon it internally.
“Don’t stop yourself from feeling—but don’t let it destroy you. You were born to care too much and love too much, so do that. The people that matter will see the beauty in it, the ones that don’t will go away.”
Once they’ve found understanding, they’ve found peace.
If the INFP criticizes their own work and deems themselves a failure, they don’t have to bear the harsh sting of rejection that may come from putting their work out there and
having it criticized by others. If the INFP deems themselves incapable of making big decisions, it saves them from making the wrong one and having to deal with the consequences. If the INFP predicts every pitfall and criticism that might come their way before they actually encounter it, they don’t have to worry about being caught off-guard by any sort of emotional pain. And so the INFP becomes his or her own worst enemy, before anybody else gets the chance to.
Perhaps what every INFP longed to hear growing up is simply that it’s okay to feel things as deeply as they do.
By learning to intellectually separate their emotional experience of a situation from the reality of a situation,
Because emotions so often feel like indisputable, intuitive truths to this type, it serves them to remember that emotions are reactions that their external environment–they are not reality itself.
Ceasing to beat yourself up over your ‘flaws’–and instead using them to form a framework for self-improvement.
What An INFPs Needs To Be Happy In A Romantic Relationship: Understanding And Acceptance
Intellectual Stimulation
To the INFP, a long, analytical conversation is a borderline erotic experience.
Security And Stability
Space
Balance
Unapologetic Romance
Mutual Support And Encouragement
Perhaps the single greatest hurdle the INFP must overcome when it comes to falling and staying in love is their tendency to fall in love with a person’s potential, rather than their reality.
They may even want to create a checklist of items that they want to resolve and present the list to their partner at the beginning of the conversation–so that they cannot let themselves off the hook halfway through the discussion and leave important issues unresolved.
they are about their ability to keep love alive. This type believes that almost any relationship can be healed, if the right amount of care and effort is poured into it.
still love the people I’ve loved, even if I cross the street to avoid them. -Uma Thurman
Relationships are not 50/50. They’re 100/100.
They key is to let the heartbreak break you open into a whole new magical being.
