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Introverted feeling is both a highly emotional and a highly analytical function. It intuitively picks up on emotional nuances in its environment and internally deciphers those nuances–seeking to uncover the deeper meaning or emotional truth behind any given situation.
Fi is the reason why you feel the strong need to advocate for your values and beliefs when someone says something that contradicts or offends them.
Fi is the reason why you intuitively pick up on the unspoken desires and motivations of others.
Fi is the reason why you’ve probably felt misunderstood for the majority of your life.
Ne is the reason why you are able to look at things from just about anyone’s point of view, whether you agree with their viewpoint or not.
Ne is the reason why you are attracted to intense, unusual and provocative ideas or people.
Si is the reason why you enjoy reflecting on your past experiences and comparing them to your present circumstances.
Si is the reason why you are keenly in tune with social norms and societal rules, even if you don’t always choose to follow them.
Underdeveloped Te is the reason why you can be harshly critical of your own creative work when you are attempting to determine how others may view it.
Underdeveloped Te is the reason why you secretly fear that others will perceive you as incompetent, and you take extreme measures to ensure you are coming across as well read and intelligent in conversation.
Many members of this type channel their deep insights about the world around them into writing, artwork or other creative endeavors.
This type enjoys reflecting on where they’ve been in life, where they’re going next and what greater meaning or universal plan links their experiences together.
They feel as though every decision they make is a direct reflection of their identity and they weigh even small-scale decisions heavily.
They can be quite serious in nature and they long for profound connections with deep, intellectual personalities.
They are particularly attracted to other artistic individuals–musicians, poets, painters, writers and other creative types–whom they often feel are the only people capable of truly understanding them.
This type lives in a world of identity possibilities and they are constantly shifting their perspective and redefining exactly what it means to be themselves.
INFPs make for vividly imaginative children who often prefer their own fanciful interpretation of the world to the actual world that they live in.
Experiencing intense emotional ups and downs that they feel largely unable to control.
Feeling pressure to act more extroverted than what comes naturally to them, in order to keep up with academic, extracurricular and social demands of high school.
Feeling incredibly lonely or isolated if they lack intuitive friends or mentors.
Possessing the ability to think deeply about complex issues, but disliking the rigid structure of the traditional education system.
Early adulthood often proves to be a difficult but ultimately rewarding period of adjustment for the INFP personality. As they struggle to find their place in society and determine how they may be able to translate their passionate ideals into concrete realities, this type finds themselves staring down many harsh truths about the world–but also many exciting realizations.
Feeling highly indecisive about which educational or career path to follow.
Being old enough to form deep, mature relationships with friends and romantic partners and allowing those relationships to take center stage in their lives.
“Your life is not a movie and you’re not the main character. No one cares about what you do, say, or think as much you believe. And this is a good thing. Let go of silly insecurities and quit worrying about the future. Learn to appreciate the here and now and let go of the past. Also… those emo lyrics away messages will NOT win your crush over.”
“Don’t let your dislike for confrontation stop you from speaking your mind every once-in-a-while—your feelings are important and need to be expressed.”
“I’m glad you have not been jaded by what you see around you. Being that inner child back then was so much more effortless than right now. Keep that enthusiasm up!”
“Being an introvert is a wonderful thing. But remember to experience the world outside of yourself too. It is important and where you will spend your existence.”
Repeating dull or monotonous tasks is torturous for the INFP–this type thrives on the opportunity to create, invent and play with new ideas.
As colleagues, this type is known for going out of their way to make sure the workplace is a peaceful and harmonious place for everyone.
many even report feeling deeply for the homeless people they pass on their way to work each morning.
However, these roles may also be quick to burn the INFP out. This type already lives in a feeling-laden world–some report that it’s a relief to have a profession that forces them to put their feelings aside for several hours a day!
I had failed at loving. And loving was the only thing I had ever really been good at.
The looping INFP is likely avoiding social interaction deliberately–but in this case, it is precisely what they need in order to break out of their negative thought cycle. The more time this type spends around extroverted intuition, the more comfortable they feel exercising it themselves–and the more natural it feels to begin incorporating it back into their stacking.
The air, to me, is heavy with emotion at times. I can’t always immediately identify what it is that’s weighing on my consciousness and yet I know when it is present. I know when I must take the time to churn it over in my mind and come to an understanding of it. There are times where I feel sadness or fear or contentment the way others feel humidity or the cold. You can’t reach out and touch it–but it’s there. It’s all around you. And it absolutely demands to be experienced.
When I’m experiencing a particularly intense emotion, I try to first step outside of it and look at the actual facts of the situation. If I’m feeling anxious about something I’ll recognize that the situation itself is not a dangerous one. I may feel uncomfortable about going to a party but I’m not going to be physically harmed while I’m there. I’m not going to have my arm chopped off by a fellow party guest. Maybe I’ll embarrass myself at worst. But I like to picture embarrassment as a stout little man who comes and unpacks his briefcase in my mind for an hour or two. He’s a bother but he
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