And the very things that were given to unite us—our biological differences—now divide us. The problem is so real and so dangerous that Christians often feel the need to establish standards of deportment for men and women. We tell women they must dress a certain way and make exacting pronouncements about what is modest and what is not. We tell men they must not have female friends, confirming for them that all women are attempting to control them through their sexuality. We tell both to be suspicious of the other, always looking for the deeper motive behind a gesture, a look, or an outfit.
