Assertive self-expression allows you to communicate your boundaries to others: “That’s as close as I’ll allow you to get to me.” “Don’t touch me.” “You’re in my space now; please back off.” But assertiveness is not all about setting limits or maintaining control in relationships. The equal-relationship assertiveness we urge is about closeness as well. We want you to be able to act assertively in drawing people closer to you as well as in keeping them away, as you choose.
