When we sign up for a long-term relationship, we are signing up on the basis of the current reality and current circumstances. These may change over a period of time. We ‘adjust’ our love and our lives accordingly and the relationship train chugs along. The allowances that we are willing to make for ‘transgressions’ from what we originally signed up for is directly proportional to the love you feel. If you feel deep love, you are willing to overlook many things. If you feel a disconnect, then the flaws begin to irk you. It is also important for both people in the relationship to feel the same
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