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August 24, 2020
People who have experienced psychological abuse often cannot clearly describe what has been done to
them.
Unless you have the precise education needed to be able to explain the situation, the toxic person’s plan works. They want to remain secretive about the abuse. They purposefully hide their behaviors just under the public radar. When people try to complain about them, the complaints fall flat on the floor. The abuser walks away looking “squeaky clean,” and the victim appears unstable. I am sure you would agree it is infuriating.
Psychological abuse is perhaps one of the most
hidden injustices of our times because it leaves the targets unable to trust even themselves. It is as if their lives are being violently shaken, like one would shake a s...
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In the environment of psychological abuse, the depths of self-hatred a target experiences can be overwhelming. Figuring out the truth is part of the process to unravel the massive amount of lies that have been spun by the abuser.
Others don’t outwardly disclose it, but their enjoyment comes bleeding through with a casual smirk or hateful chuckle.
The majority of people who have been abused psychologically do not believe they will ever make it through the first stage of recovery (Despair).
The days of feeling sparkly and clear-headed have long been gone, or maybe never existed because of childhood abuse.
relationships are 50/50 in responsibility. This is not necessarily true, and most definitely not when one person is clinically toxic.
Recognizing you’ve been a part of an abusive relationship is a process. Psychological abuse doesn’t leave bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the survivor. The abuser wants it exactly that way.
Keeping their hands clean and being able to project a public persona are hallmarks of psychological abusers.
We cannot feel badly for those who intentionally harm
us.
“SURVIVOR: To remain alive; to carry on despite hardships or trauma; persevere, to remain functional or usable, to live longer than; outlive, to persist or remain usable through, and to cope with a trauma or setback, to persevere after.”
The freedom to be an individual is exactly what abusers try to steal. Finding the specific path to restoration that works for you is the only thing that matters.
The core inherent faulty thinking of abusers is that everything revolves around them.
However, within many local and state jurisdictions, domestic aggression is not considered a real threat until it involves bodily harm. This leaves adults and children literally terrorized in their own homes, and nothing can legally be done.
Frequently, the emotional homicide is happening while other people go on clamoring about what a great guy or gal the abuser is and how lucky the survivor is to be connected to the abuser.
People should never underestimate a psychological abuser’s ability to hide the truth.
