All The Reminders You Need To Get You Through Anything In Life

by Thought Catalog

Do not let anyone make you feel like you’re unlovable; you may be difficult to love, you may have baggage, but you are not unloveable.

High school and college friendships dissolve sometimes, and you don’t need to feel guilty about growing apart.

It’s natural to feel like you have to run away—from people, from feelings, from places, from life—but sometimes you should challenge yourself to stay put.

Finding purpose in your everyday life is essential, but stressing out about whether every little thing is meaningful isn’t.

Feeling lost is just a gentle reminder that you are trying to improve yourself every day.

Finding someone who will love you won’t make you love yourself more. If your source of happiness comes from someone you may lose, you’re corrupting the goodness of your mind and soul.

It’s okay if you still don’t know what you want. Because does anyone really know what they want, ever?

Removing negative people from your life will help you get where you want. If someone in your life isn’t making it better, then they’re probably only making it worse.

If someone says they love you, they will love ALL of you. They will love your good parts, and they will also love your insecurities and faults. If they don’t, do they really love all of you?

Stay away from people who are all talk and no action. You’ll sooner than later find out how disappointing individuals like these tend to turn out.

Crying feels good sometimes. Even if it is for days at a time, let it all out.

Being selfish doesn’t make you a monster. Take time for yourself. You need to focus on you.

No matter how strongly you feel about each other, you can’t expect to be fulfilled by your relationship alone. You will both have to work hard on yourselves, too. The more satisfied you are as individuals, the better equipped you’ll be to support on another.

It’s okay to have bad days as a couple. You won’t feel head-over-heels in love every second. Sometimes, you will legitimately hate each other. But you’re not any less in love with someone just because you can’t stand them for a bit.

Communication is key, but that doesn’t mean every single passing thought is worth sharing. Some things are better kept to yourself, especially in the name of protecting the person you love. Total transparency is for windows, not lovers.

Forgiveness is almost always the key to moving forward. Getting there requires stepping outside yourself to see your partner’s perspective—a difficult thing to do since each of us lives in the tiny, egocentric universe of our own mind—but it does get easier with practice.

You can only fight doubt with patience, understanding, and compassion.

A solid relationship is rooted in equality—a sense of balance between two people’s competing wants and needs. As soon as something happens to compromise that harmony, you have to reshape things to reestablish the peace. You have to adapt constantly—as individuals and as a couple—to survive.

Living with another person can be really challenging, but I promise that you’re just as difficult to live with as your significant other is, and that you’re both equally to blame for any cohabitation headaches. If you’re craving alone time in the home you share, find a way to be alone when someon...

She’s more resilient than you can fathom, which means she won’t put up with your bullshit for too long. People who have been through hell know that they are capable of moving on.

If she seems like she’s over-analyzing what you say, it’s because in the past, those offhand comments were warning signs that she brushed off too easily.

If it seems like she’s overthinking your relationship, it’s because in the past, she learned not to...

There will be some things that trigger her, or at least remind her of past experiences. Let those be moments in which you reassure her that this is different. If it doesn’t bring you closer, it will push you farther apart.

Don’t confuse forgiveness for forgetting. People who have been through a lot do not forget when someone gives them a glimpse at their true character.

Understand that she is the person she is because of what she went through. Don’t see her as a victim with baggage, see her as a survivor who still—miraculously—has the capacity to love.

The fact that you are even aware of the feelings you are experiencing right now means you are in the mindset of always expecting the best of yourself.

Going through a quarter-life crisis means that you’re growing. It means you are coming with terms to the fact that your whimsical, “fake adult” way of living is over, which, though it’s a hard pill to swallow, also means that you are aware that it’s time to grow up. Some people never come to that realization.

There will probably never be an age in which you feel that you simply have everything together. Almost every person around you, whether they’re 21 or 56, is pretty much running on the ‘fake it ’til you make it’ mantra.

Don’t underestimate the amount of peace you might receive from meditation, or long talks with friends and family, or an extremely helpful book.

Don’t try to find yourself. It’s an impossible feat when you’re always changing. Just accept the uncomfortable doubts and embrace the fact that they are part of what’s making you who you are.

Always look at how far you’ve come instead of how far you still need to go. As long as you keep moving you will eventually get to where you want to be.

Don’t compare yourself to others and feel inadequate. Their journey is not the same as yours and their success doesn’t mean you’re a failure—it means your path is different.

Crying is not a sign of weakness. Don’t confuse your sadness with weakness, crying means you’re healing and it means you’re getting rid of all the anger inside of you so you can have a clearer and better vision.

You shouldn’t measure your self-worth and value based on those who couldn’t love you or those who only took your love for granted.

You’re going through this because you will inspire someone someday; maybe you will inspire hundreds or thousands of people. You’re meant to share your challenges with someone who will need your help and your guidance in the future.

No matter how hard it gets, giving up on yourself will make it harder, you have to always pick yourself up because you can, because you’re capable of overcoming hardships and because this is how you make a comeback.

You are so much more than the worst mistake you’ve ever made.

Stop asking: “What am I doing with my life?” and start asking: “What am I doing with today?