Another variation on the push-pull dance happens when Fours say to themselves, If I could only find the right partner, the right therapist, the right church or the right friend, then I’d be complete. Once Fours find this perfect someone or something they’ll pull them in until they get close enough to realize that whoever or whatever it is won’t fill the hole in their soul. Then the Four will push them away. Maybe they stop returning calls or showing up for things without explanation. But then when the same person begins to move too far away from them, they start to desire them again.
