I do not feel compelled to sacrifice myself and say yes merely to please another person. Therefore, before giving my answer in such a situation I say to myself, “I am not a child, therefore I don’t need to go out of my way to please grownups in order to guarantee my survival. If I do not please myself, I please no one.” If I make a habit of saying yes when the answer is no, I shall not only lose my own self-esteem but in the end I shall also lose the esteem of the person I’m trying to please.
