But what I didn’t understand until recently was that those tender, orchestrated moments mean nothing unless they occur with someone who loves you just the way you are. For too long, I was in a relationship in which love always felt conditional – I was forever trying, and failing, to become someone worthy of true love. But in thinking about you and Liz and the way you are with each other, it eventually dawned on me that acceptance is the heart of true love, not judgment. To be fully accepted by another, even in your weakest
