It is good for us to “be with” and to forgive family members, partners, and children without needing to shape them in a violent way. It is liberating to accept that they are different from us, that they think and act in their own ways, and that they make different choices than we might make. It is important to liberate them to make their own mistakes and to learn life’s lessons at their own pace. And finally, instead of wishing they had lived according to our expectations, how blessed we’d be to be grateful even when they weren’t able to love us perfectly, and how loving it would be to allow
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