The Danish Way of Parenting: What the Happiest People in the World Know About Raising Confident, Capable Kids

by Jessica Joelle Alexander

“Do you want to go ow-ow? Mommy doesn’t want you to go ow-ow! Do you see those cars?” She pointed to the cars and he nodded. “Cars go ow-ow to Sebastian!”

you will never see me down talking to my kid like this

Are We Overprogramming Our Kids’ Lives?

not doing this, we dont enroll the kid in any classes

Internal vs. External Locus of Control

what does my kid rhink, does he do what he wnts or does he feel he depends on what we want?

Giving Kids the Space to Learn and Grow

dont push but dont overprotect

Play and Coping Skills

supposedly, by playing, the kid exposes himself to self controlled levels of stress that he can regulate, and therefore, learns resilience and stress managmet, if you crwate situationof stress for them their i ternal locus is zero, while de external is over 9000, its important fo the kid to feel in control while self exposi g to stressful situations

encourage shy, lonely kids

it is perfectly fine being introverred, people are happy that way

is really eye-opening. How many smart and talented people do you know who have never lived up to their potential because they had a fixed mind-set about being naturally smart—so they stopped trying when success didn’t come easily?

disagree, intelligdnce is fixed, knowledge is not

really? references of the study?

It’s the ones who can tackle a task with perseverance and resilience, incorporating colleagues with gratitude, who will ultimately get the sought-after position—and even make it to CEO

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you have an argument with your child about food being too hot, it is important to remember that although it isn’t too hot for you, it may be too hot for her.

I fucking hate it when they refer to babies as her! I rather say "it"

Another less obvious example of empathy training in Danish schools is in how they

this works for danish people, how to make it work in somewhere else?, outaide of denmark everyone raises kids preparing them not to be bullied by other kids, perpetuating the cycle, better to raise an asshole than someone who's gonna be bullied by an asshole

fosters collaboration, teamwork, and respect. Studies show that there is a huge learning curve in teaching others. Students who teach others work harder to understand the material, recall

how to deal with kid learning a new language, or kid beng bullied, or kid loses temper real quick

meaningful relationships,

sometimes collaboration or being social is not an option, having an introvert is not a bad thing

language between Danish and English is what we call the toddler years. In English it is called the “terrible twos,” whereas in Danish it is called trodsalder (the “boundary age”); children pushing boundaries is normal and

that's cool, changes perspectiv just being calling it different

series of moral problems and asked how they would solve them. Students from authoritative families were more likely than others to say that their parents, not their peers, would influence their decisions.

hhhhm, struggling to see it as something good

Kids who are really too full of energy or aggressive may be asked to run laps by themselves to help them burn off some of the excess energy.

this is my kid and rhats what we try to do

Iben recalls an example of how she avoided power struggles with a student when she was teaching. There was a boy in her class who was

what to do if he doesn't want to go from a playground and yells real loud?

Jessica’s daughter refused to wear a jacket or socks for some time. It was very frustrating, and nothing worked except taking her outside with no jacket or socks, at which point her daughter realized, “Hey, I am cold; I should put that on!” It took some time, but she grew out of it. She didn’t say hello to people for a while either. People stopped and said hello, and she looked away. Jessica kept reminding her, but she never forced it. One day, six months later, she started saying hello unprompted and continued to do so from there on in. Kids are testing things for themselves as well. If it becomes too much of a power game, everyone loses and life becomes more unpleasant than it needs to be. If you stay cool, so will they.

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The word hygge dates back to the nineteenth century and is derived from the Germanic word hyggja, which means “to think or feel satisfied.” It is a

disagree, some people just want to be in their rooms while everyone else party o the living room

Start a mothers’

not expected to be read by a dude

Play helps children develop many essential life skills. Resilience, coping and negotiation skills, and self-control are just a few of the valuable lessons learned in unstructured play—as

anxiety is innate, i remember getting nausea attacks because of aids when i was like 7

information on PARENT.

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