Our unhealed relationship with our parents gets projected onto others. We’ll either pull in partners with similar traits who treat us in the same way, or we’ll do the opposite; we’ll attract caring partners who are kind to us yet see them as uncaring. We’ll interpret their actions in the most negative light. In our hypervigilance and inability to trust, we could even turn a good partner into a bad one. One way to tip the scales in our favor is to act in the highest integrity in our relationships, even if it’s not what we are yet able to feel. I often say: Trust your partner, and he or she will
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