This Is Me Letting You Go

by Heidi Priebe

the hand we are dealt is not always the one we want to play,

the hand we are dealt is not always the one we want to play,

letting go is that it doesn’t take on a single shape or form. It happens in stops and starts. In stretches and setbacks.

letting go is that it doesn’t take on a single shape or form. It happens in stops and starts. In stretches and setbacks.

There are a thousand minute intricacies that make up the tapestry of who you are, and not a single one has ceased to exist since the last time that somebody loved you.

There are a thousand minute intricacies that make up the tapestry of who you are, and not a single one has ceased to exist since the last time that somebody loved you.

You are a blazing, roaring fire in a world full of people who’ve been burnt.

You are a blazing, roaring fire in a world full of people who’ve been burnt.

you, my dear, are too intense a power to be reduced by something as small and insignificant as the lack of a good morning text.

you, my dear, are too intense a power to be reduced by something as small and insignificant as the lack of a good morning text.

I’m texting you this because I’m glad I met you. Because before you came along, things were okay, but something about you injected color into my world,

I’m texting you this because I’m glad I met you. Because before you came along, things were okay, but something about you injected color into my world,

the people we meet at the wrong time are actually just the wrong people.

the people we meet at the wrong time are actually just the wrong people.

You never meet the right people at the wrong time because the right people are timeless.

You never meet the right people at the wrong time because the right people are timeless.

Read This If You’re Worried That You’ll Never Find ‘The One’ Imagine something crazy for me quickly. What if you peered into a fortune ball right now—this very second, today—and saw with indisputable clarity that you were never going to meet the love of your life? That’s a sad thing I’m asking you to think of, I’m aware. You’ve been hoping to meet “The One” for a while now—or at least someone half-decent who you can deal with for the rest of your life. I know, I know. You’re not fanciful like everyone else. You don’t believe in soulmates. But you were expecting to meet someone you liked a fair amount. Someone to curl up next to at the end of a long day, who would take care of you when you got sick and listen to your stories every evening after work. We all hope that. We’re human. But imagine for a second that you knew—with 100% certainty—that you would never meet that person. What about your life would that knowledge change?

Read This If You’re Worried That You’ll Never Find ‘The One’ Imagine something crazy for me quickly. What if you peered into a fortune ball right now—this very second, today—and saw with indisputable clarity that you were never going to meet the love of your life? That’s a sad thing I’m asking you to think of, I’m aware. You’ve been hoping to meet “The One” for a while now—or at least someone half-decent who you can deal with for the rest of your life. I know, I know. You’re not fanciful like everyone else. You don’t believe in soulmates. But you were expecting to meet someone you liked a fair amount. Someone to curl up next to at the end of a long day, who would take care of you when you got sick and listen to your stories every evening after work. We all hope that. We’re human. But imagine for a second that you knew—with 100% certainty—that you would never meet that person. What about your life would that knowledge change?

The idea that someday somebody will love all our flaws is a subtle excuse not to work on them. The principle of two halves making a whole restrains us from becoming our own better half.

Would you nurture and care more for the people who love you platonically

Without the fear of ending up alone, the opportunities open to you would become endless.

Live your life as if you are the love of

stop looking for The One to spend the rest of your life with. Be The One. And let everybody else come searching for you.

You are the flame, not the moth. And your job is to burn with conviction.

Here’s the stark truth about the person who is right for you: They want the same lifestyle that you do. How do I know this? Because that is, by definition, what makes them right for you. To be with someone whose eyes light up when yours do, whose heart races when your blood also pounds, who is enticed and inspired by the same forces that drive you forward, is a gift many of us never truly get to experience.

We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.

the end of the day, love is wonderful, but it isn’t enough to make up for an entire lifetime of compromising your core values.

Wait for the person who is gazing outward in the same direction as you are.

You fell in love with their potential. You fell in love with the maybes and the could-have-beens.

You fell in love with all the trips you didn’t take, the plans you didn’t make, the hazy, unintelligible future that stretched out before you without any opportunity to build upon.

By a certain age, we are all nothing more than an army of broken hearts and aching souls desperately searching for fulfillment.

You’re allowed to stumble slowly towards your biggest transformations. It doesn’t always have to be a blazing, flagrant affair.

You are tired because you’re growing. And someday, that growth will give way to the exact rejuvenation you need.

You need someone you can rely on, and that person has to be you.

At the end of the day, you have two choices in love—one is to accept someone just as they are, and the other is to walk away.

There is no in-between. There is no bartering, bargaining, expecting, and falling short in love. There is just choosing to be there or not. Anything in between is a tired, self-interested excuse for love.

To love without expectation, you learn to appreci...

the more anticipation we put onto others, the more we let oursel...

Because here’s the thing about placing expectations on others: at the root of expectation is need. Need for others to accept you, to validate

I hate every cliché that exists about forgiveness. I know

Forgiveness is a vast, un-traversable land for those who crave justice.

The very thought of letting someone walk away scot-free from what they’ve done makes us sick. We don’t want to simply wipe our hands clean. We want to transfer the blood onto theirs.

We stay angry because we want justice.

The truth about anger is that it’s nothing more than the refusal to heal because you’re scared to.

here’s what they all fail to tell you about forgiveness: It’s not going to fix anything. It’s not an eraser that will wipe away the pain of what’s happened to you. It does not undo the pain that you’ve been living with and grant you immediate peace. Finding peace

Forgiveness means accepting responsibility—not for causing the destruction, but for cleaning it up.

But we don’t talk about what it feels like to not want to believe in ourselves anymore in the wake of a mistake.

We fail with elegance when we are proud of who we are. When we can stand behind the choices we made. But if we can’t, our errors swallow us whole.

Failure isn’t always about learning a lesson, and to imply as much is demeaning to everyone involved.

Some catastrophes are not there to teach you a lesson but to stop you in your tracks.